Parenting Styles
The most difficult job in the world is to be a parent and its the one job that no one does any training for. New parents get tons of advice from family، friends and experts in the media. All this advice is sometimes contradictive and its very confusing. Sometimes، you just have to follow your own instinct. After all، no one knows the child like his or her own parents. If a strong bond is forged between parent and child in the early years، the family will survive the difficult teenage years، which will surely come. Parents have different parenting styles when it comes to the thorny issue of discipline. Debates rage on which methods are the best.
One of the constant arguments is over corporal punishment، to smack or not to smack. Smacking was commonplace when I was a kid and it was part of life. It was probably overused and some parents did it out of habit، rather than as a well thought out strategy to instill a sense of right and wrong. I tended to be smacked when I was being a nuisance rather than for the times when I was actually doing something bad. It was an unthinking response of the older generation، a lot of the time. Sometimes، it was calculated of course، and more like going to the Head Teachers office to get the cane. The next generation started to question parenting styles and a lot of people rejected smacking altogether.
If smacking is outlawed in the home، what can replace it? There are different measures، which parents employ، according to their choice of parenting styles. Stopping TV for a week or two is one way، or grounding a child may do the trick. Its really a mercenary act of getting them where it hurts. Some kids will prefer a quick smack to being grounded and not being able to see their friends. Sending a child to his room doesnt seem to work like it used to. These days، childrens bedrooms are full of the latest gadgets and home entertainment centers. Its not exactly a place of punishment or quite reflection!
Parents are very busy people، running a home and holding down jobs. Its tempting to give in to childrens demands when you come home exhausted from a day at work. Kids can sense weakness and know when to strike! Parenting styles may have relaxed over the years and no one wants to go back to the Victorian severity when children were seen and never heard. However، its important that we dont tip too far the other way. We dont do our kids any favors by giving in to their every whim، and what they need most of all is our attention.
